tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3486103715531710138.post2355839580485308560..comments2023-10-15T00:48:34.146-07:00Comments on Madame Mari Mortem: Fashioning My Cyber Microcosm: Finding The SelfMari Mortemhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05145952481626414717noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3486103715531710138.post-27033113236372352822013-03-31T12:42:54.847-07:002013-03-31T12:42:54.847-07:00I'm glad to hear the key to your happiness mig...I'm glad to hear the key to your happiness might soon be in your reach!Ms Misantropiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03200076221996543289noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3486103715531710138.post-63905687637072499232013-03-30T18:11:57.760-07:002013-03-30T18:11:57.760-07:00I am sorry to hear that you are having such a hard...I am sorry to hear that you are having such a hard time. It must be very difficult trying to make a new life in a new country (especially going from Alberta to a desert!) Also, you are quite far from family which would be hard as well. I hope things get better for you soon.Vulcan_Butterflyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11347496680018156439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3486103715531710138.post-54946131165577295792013-03-27T08:49:06.892-07:002013-03-27T08:49:06.892-07:00Moving is quite an adjustment, and I guess I under...Moving is quite an adjustment, and I guess I underestimated how difficult it would be emotionally. I truly feel that the cause of my despondency is a mixture of deeply missing my family, and living in an area and situation that hinders the capacity to express myself.<br /><br />I feel you're correct about my mother and how her desire for home influenced my perception; it's given me a lot to think about. When I think of home, it could be in the arctic as long as I have my family and my art closeby. Those two factors give me purpose, and without them I feel faded.<br /><br />Thank you for sharing your experience, it is also food for thought.<br />I love my husband so very much, I admit to being blinded by my intense love for him that I completely overlooked the other important factors needed for my own pursuit of happiness, and the funny thing is that they lie just beyond hands reach; I have to continue waiting till I can make those necessary changes.<br />Madame Mari Mortemhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14092879436628518422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3486103715531710138.post-52294494926210307002013-03-27T04:04:55.475-07:002013-03-27T04:04:55.475-07:00It sounds like things are difficult for you lately...It sounds like things are difficult for you lately. I know all about moving to a different country, I know about homesickness, I know about wondering if what you left behind is really as wonderful as you remember it.<br /><br />What strikes me about your post is that you grew up with a mother who so clearly longed to go back all your life, who was not quite happy where she was, who never really felt at home. I can imagine it has had a profound impact on you, and the way you experience and identify the whole concept of "home", but also where you are at at the moment.<br /><br />For me, it was the wrong decision to move, especially for a man. I didn't really have any interest in making new friends, or a new life for myself. I reduced myself to a prop, facilitating my man's life.<br /><br />I ultimately realized I needed my family close by (now 30 minutes by car). Once the decision was made, nothing felt as right as me going back home - even though the first few months at home were very hard too. Every such great move and adjustment is. <br /><br />Since then I have had two long relationships with foreigners, but from the very beginning I have made it clear they will have to be the ones moving in with me in Sweden. One of them is now a Swedish citizen and the other one lives with me :)<br /><br />I hope you find your way soon, take care.Ms Misantropiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03200076221996543289noreply@blogger.com